This is not going to help you find information on specific situations or anything. It's way too short for that. Other stuff here (like the Rules of Arguing for Friends on the Internet, for example), or a simple Google search can do that. What I'm going to tell you is if you dig down deep to the heart of decision making in general, this is what you should have:
Here is how you make a decision about ANYTHING.Edit
There are two ideas of mine that work hand in hand for this.
The battery theory goes like this:Edit
The first is the battery theory. You have a battery in you. You use it for everything that you do during the day. You run out of battery at night and are replenished by morning. Thus everything you do has to be weighed against its cost to your battery. Literally ask yourself, is it worth your energy. How do you decide if it's worth the energy?
The dishes analogy goes like this:Edit
That's where the dishes analogy comes in.
- Complaining about the dishes does not get them clean.
- Worrying about the dishes does not get them clean.
- Feeling guilty about the dishes does not get them clean.
- Finding out who is responsible for the dishes does not get them clean.
- Blaming other people for the dishes does not get them clean.
- Ignoring the dishes does not get them clean.
- WASHING the dishes, gets the dishes clean. Everything else is a waste of battery.
Between those two ideas, you have a concrete way to judge the general importance or usefulness of just about anything.
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